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Spanish Fly: Friend or Foe?

This article is about the Spanish fly, world’s largest natural supplier of an ‘aphrodisiac’ which has been used over the years to supposedly boost sexual urge.

It dates back to ancient times when man started exploring different approaches to a healthier and more active sexual life.

Aphrodisiac. Or Not?

Named after Aphrodite — the Greek goddess of love, aphrodisiacs are meant to increase sexual urge (libido) in users, for a length of time. Dating back to the years of early medicine when science was at its babyhood, their use have been largely employed when discoveries were made about their potency in sexual enhancement. Spanish fly is the most widely-known (and most toxic, mind you) of all known aphrodisiacs. It’s also the longest-serving member of the aphrodisiac group of substances.

Spanish fly is a potent ‘aphrodisiac’ used in ancient times for a number of medical conditions (dropsy, pile, ulcer, rabies). It was not until the early ages that the aphrodisiac properties of Spanish fly became explored.

It was fabled to be effective in seducing women into sex: “you wanna get that chick huh? Slip a drop or two into her drink and she’ll be all over you!” (LOL, in your dreams) However, the Spanish fly is in fact real and does work on men, making them hot — physically, that is — and most likely kill them. The active substance in this ‘aphrodisiac’ is cantharidin, a highly powerful substance on the same level with strychnine and highly toxic if ingested in large amounts.

Definitely not a great way to die, aye?

Origin of “Spanish Fly”

Contrary to popular belief, the Spanish fly is not the aphrodisiac itself, it’s the fly that produces the cantharidin. It is gotten from a shiny-green beetle (Lytta vesicatoria) which belongs to the insect family Meloidae, commonly known as “blister beetles”.

Introducing, Spanish Fly Original!

Funny enough, the Spanish fly’s name bears no relation to Spain nor is it a fly. It’s actually a Southern European beetle famous for producing small but highly toxic amounts of cantharidin for two purposes: protection against predators and also during mating. The male produces significantly more quantities of cantharidin than the female.

Lethal Weapon

Combined with its hard exoskeleton, the Spanish fly uses the substance it produces to form a highly efficient attack-defence system.

Cantharidin is a highly toxic vesicant (blistering agent) causing formation of severe blisters on the soft parts of the skin when one comes in direct contact with it (cantharidin) or the beetle’s body — now you know why they’re called “blister beetles”. However, the blisters are virtually painless and disappear after some time.

Nothing But Mimicry

It was ingested by men and women alike, in ancient times, to produce an “aphrodisiac” effect. Yeah, not really one.

Why?

This is because it works by producing an increased blood flow to the genitals so as to heighten sensitivity of the genitals, resulting in a supposed higher sexual performance and enjoyment.

Not your typical aphrodisiac, huh?

It was mostly used by men to achieve a faster and long-lasting erection through the above process and also irritation of the urethra.

Spanish Fly and the right sex rituals can reignite your love life

Have you been married for a long time? Does it seem like you have known your significant other forever? Has the spark of your sex life completely gone out that you have do you find it increasingly difficult to experience a truly earth-shattering and intense, extended orgasm with your partner? Does she have a tough time getting excited over sex? If any of these questions apply to you, please understand that sexual arousal is mostly mental and emotional.

Unfortunately, we live in a society where physical arousal takes top billing and this is where a lot of people get the sex game wrong. If you want to play the game right, you need to make sure that all pieces are in play. However, a lot of people just focus on the physical elements. They focus on getting wet, getting hard and getting physically aroused. Believe it or not, a lot has to happen first for a physical arousal to take place and more importantly, for this type of arousal to be maintained and intensified later on.

You have to pay attention to what is going on in your head. You have to be clear as to what you are feeling. Unfortunately so many couples look at sex as just one of those drives that they have to immediately and quickly satisfy. It is not so much different from going to the bathroom, drinking, eating or seeking shelter. It is just another biological need that you have. It is really not all that much different from your other biological needs. Now, do you see where the problem lies? Do you see what is wrong with this picture?

If you are serious about reigniting your love life and extending your sex life, you need to rediscover the power of rituals. The right rituals take your sexual sensitivity and personal eroticism both as individuals and as a couple, to a much higher level. If you have been simply going through the motions and considering sex as just another commodity, and you do not see much difference between good and bad sex, if you focus more on the volume, you have to take matters into your own hands. You have to take the initiative and you both have to buy into the right rituals.

What are the right rituals?

Keep in mind that rituals are both foreplay and seduction. People can understand what foreplay means. Now, most people think that it is all about oral sex or about certain types of preliminary positions. Well, that is true but that is just a part of the puzzle, a small piece of a larger picture.

Sexual arousal is mostly mental and emotional. Your choice of foreplay must keep this in mind. It must further that the whole notion of seduction. Each and every time you have sex with your partner, it should be a rediscovery of each other’s sexual attraction. It should be a celebration of what you find so sexy in each other. This is where seduction comes in.

You are re-establishing yourself with your partner. You are communicating to her in no uncertain terms: how important she is to you and how much you desire her. Now, this desire is not just physical desire. It is not just a question of certain bodily functions. It is something more than that. You have to use rituals to trigger these emotional and mental signals so as to fully turn each other on.

Multi-sensory rituals

Engage as many of your senses as possible. Sex has to be something that you can see, taste, touch, smell and hear. Otherwise, you are leaving something big off the table. Otherwise it is incomplete. To get the process going, one key part of your sex rituals can involve physical triggers like Spanish fly.

Spanish fly is so powerful that it has the same effect on people as placebos and other chemical triggers are. It is anybody’s guess what the actual aphrodisiac effect is. But that is really beside the point. When people are given supplementation, they assume certain things.  This changes their sense of possibility. Ultimately, it changes the way they act.

The moment you change the way you act, as far as your sex partner is concerned, is that the moment when you are giving yourself an opportunity to take your love life to the next level. Apply and look for as many different rituals and physical triggers as possible. It maybe an aphrodisiac food or aphrodisiac compound like Spanish Fly or it may involve Viagra. Whatever the case may be, use these rituals to remind each other why you find each other so sexy and why you cannot live without each other.

Remember, sex must be a celebration. It is not a selfish act where you are trying to just get pleasure courtesy of your partner. It is not a process of extraction. Instead, it is a process of excitement and addition. You are trying to create beautiful music together. You are trying to put things together instead of chopping things apart and figuring out what is yours and what you have coming  for you.  You go from being self-absorbed and selfish to selfless and giving. That is the ultimate core of truly amazing sex.

The ultimate form of pleasurable sex is when you get so excited about what you can give that your senses all wake up. All pistons are firing-from your emotions to your rational faculties to, of course, your body. When you get this lit up, every lick, every intense look, every hot whisper lights up your nerves-and the moment becomes electric. That’s all that matters. The moment you find yourself truly alone with your partner and celebrating each other’s charms is when you enter a truly special place of intimacy, intensity, and authenticity.

This is the essence of great sex. It’s all about realizing that you are truly bonded with another person. You do it not just for the physical pleasure or what is in it for you. Instead, it turns you on because you truly love seeing the other person pleasured. That’s when you cross the threshold from ‘I’ to ‘we.’

Let’s Talk About Sex- and Philosophy

To talk about sex in the sense that we will talk about is not to talk about sex in the narrow biological sense, but from the philosophical perspective.

Though Freud claimed to be grounding psychology in the science of biology, he, as Eric Fromm pointed out, actually was working from a “materialist philosophy.”

Instead of uncritically assuming one narrow philosophical perspective we will look at sex from the perspective of broad philosophical categories, questions, and problems: the relationship of the knower to the external world, knowledge vs. opinion, the fundamental principles behind reality and choices, ethical and moral theory, the meaning of freedom, the mind-body question, and the human being in society.

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For the most part, wearing something sexy, such as fishnet stockings in the office, are frowned upon, because they receive negative reactions or comments. But some women want to have a little sexy oomph or add some fashionable femininity to their boring, boxy pantsuits. Below are ways to incorporate those sexy pieces into an office wardrobe without the Human Resources manager sending out emails about the office dress code. The key is not overdoing it.

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The College Sex Magazines: Flirting with the Shock Barrier

In the 1960s, young women would go bare-breasted in public in demonstration of their feminist politics and their liberation from stifling, outmoded sexual taboos. Streaking was another practice about this time challenging conventional social and sexual mores. Both the bare-breasted women and streakers would choose the most public and most crowded location possible to flaunt the rules to draw as much media attention as possible. The streaking incident of the 1974 Oscars hosted by David Niven is legendary. In 2007, young women and men at elite universities are posing in various states of undress often picturing or suggesting any sex act imaginable. Harvard University has its “H Bomb”; Vassar, its “Squirm”; Columbia University, its “Outlet”; the University of Massachusetts-Boston, its “Boink.”

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Tracking the Echidna’s Sex Life: Studying Echidna’s Life Cycle To Improve Breeding Programs

Researchers at the University of Adelaide, South Australia, and Adelaide zoos are halfway through a two-year study into the reproductive cycle of the echidna in order to understand its biology and ecology better, which could improve captive breeding programs of these iconic monotremes.

Dr Frank Grützner from the University’s School of Molecular and Biomedical Science, Dr Peggy Rismiller from Anatomical Science, Dr Greg Johnston from the Royal Zoological Society of South Australia and Professor Steve Donnellan from the South Australian Museum are observing wild echidnas within the 1000 ha area of South Australia’s Monarto Zoo.

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Sex and the Sedative: Is There a Price for Happiness?

A 1984 article in The Village Voice titled “Sex or a Sense of Humor?” was comprised of impromptu interviews with Greenwich Village types who were given a choice of (sic) giving up sex or their sense of humor. All but one chose to keep the chortles coming, which was cited as their only survival tactic in a sea of one night can’t stands. Besides, why choose?

An annual checkup with a General Practioner and affirmative answers to a 10 question true or false test (‘Have your sleeping habits changed?’, ‘Has your appetite increased/decreased’), can net patient prescriptions to antidepressants. According to the script info, after five days, most patients experience a noticeable lift in spirits. They become more outgoing, handle the stresses of work more easily, and their social life soars. In addition, it is non-addictive, cheap (with insurance coverage), legal, and readily accessible. Joan E. Lisante wriites in an article a potential 1.5 billion of the world’s population currently take antidepressants.

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